Why women have affairs?
Speak about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with troubles, cause heartache, and other troubles. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, money, age difference, religious education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, date married.
Why do men have affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking an affair. I suppose mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos people has erected against affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your family or anybody else? You will need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest group, gigantic really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, generally the man is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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